Cheating...Part 2 (Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater??)
11/17/2008 06:51:00 PM Posted In cheating , reformation , relationships Edit This 3 Comments »
This stems from my last blog about cheating (hence the part 2 lol)
Now that eveyrone has declared their stand on what cheating is...I'm going to take a little spin on it...I want to make a blind assumption, go out on a limb, and say that almost everyone has cheated before in some form. Whether it was emotional, physical, or even mental, everyone has done some form of cheating.
Are you to be considered a cheater forever? Have you changed? Will it stay that way? If you've never cheated...(congrats)...and do you feel like a cheater can be reformed???
I'm going to be completely honest, i've only been faithful in one relationship in my entire life. I either wasn't satisfied with how i was being treated, wasn't satisfied sexually, or just didn't care! My last relationship though, is when i remained faithful, even after being cheated on. That's why it stands out so much to me.
After having been a faithful cheater...(crazy way to word that right?)...but yes, after being a faithful cheather, i found someone who i wanted to solely be with emotionally, physically, mentally and sexually.Most females in my position would have either left or cheated...but i did neither. Something inside me wanted to keep my word to myself and to him. Do i feel like since i was cheated on anyway that it was in vain? HELL NO! I know now that the saying is SO far from being true.I was once a cheater and for that relationship, i made a major change.
If i cheat in a relationship in the future...will that count as me "always" being a cheater? I dont know & wont get to find out either...My philosophy now is to either keep it real and say I'm not satisfied and want to see other people or just leave the relationship. either way i would not be cheating.
now that i've been completely faithful to someone, it feels GOOD to say/know that i can do it. plus, the feeling of knowing that i haven't shared myself with anyone and any way...i never want that feeling taken from me again. It felt great to not have to lie. Even if my truth wasnt accepted by him didnt matter, bc i had no feelings of guilt.
So do i think that if you've cheated that you'll always be that way? NOPE. unless you never find that one person that gets into your heart deep enough to make you WANT to be faithful. It will only happen if you want it to. I wanted to be able to tell the man i was with that he's the only man ive been with since we got together...and i was finally able to.
So what do you think? Am i still a cheater? Know any reformed cheaters? Are you a reformed cheater? How did you come about changing? If you still cheat...why? And do you think you could be faithful?WILL A CHEATER ALWAYS CHEAT????
3 comments:
having the urge to cheat is just as guilty because once u find that absolute happiness then won't have any urges and no one should deprive themselves of happiness because its the right thing to do meaning...if ur in a relationship and u constantly think about someone else and u think u can be happy wit that person then be with that person because ur here for a great time not a long time and it should be spent as happy as possible and whatever brings that happiness do it.
People dont change, situations do.
Everyone cheats once in there life. Like I said the thought alone makes you have that urge to cheat (MASE well said). I doubt you still are a cheater but that doesnt mean you wont cheat again. I agree with vegas when he says situations change which is true but I do believe people do change....only thing is change isnt always designed for the better (people always tend to think that). So you was put in a situation where you found someone that made you NOT want to cheat. But we wont know if your a cheater until you are put in another situation. I dont know ANY reformed cheaters lol i dont even think they exist. I believe I have the intent not to cheat but best believe if im put in a situation where I feel im being played im def gonna do me. BUT i know damn sure I can be faithful.....anyone can just like anyone can cheat all it takes is the "right person" or "wrong situation"
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