The Stigma of First Date Sex...

4/16/2011 11:03:00 AM Posted In , , Edit This 2 Comments »
Let's be honest...it's 2011 and the majority of us have indulged in a sex on the first night before. We may not be proud of it or even admit to it, but it has happened. My only question is, does it still have the same stigma it's had in the past? Do people still consider females who have sex the first time they chill with a guy a 'hoe'? And do women still view men that try to have sex after only hanging out once a 'player'?

Now screwing everyone on the first night, that's a little bit of a problem...but is it so wrong to have such a strong physical attraction to someone that you take it a step further after just one date?  I think it's more of a generational thing though.  All of the older people I know make it seem like it's a terrible thing, while people in my generation view it as simply acting on an attraction.

What makes it more than what it is, is the way most women feel after they've had sex with a guy after barely knowing him. They start getting into- what if people find out? Does he think I'm a hoe? Is that all he wanted?  Granted, there are some men that make women feel comfortable enough to have sex with them and then disappear, but some men are just genuinely as attracted to you as you are to them.

It's all about making a conscious decision that it's something you want to do.  If you're doing it with hesitance, or because you just think it's what the other person wants, then maybe you should decide against it because all you will have is regret.  But if it's something that you're doing because you want to, then there is no way that you can regret it afterwards.

It happens everyday, but are people still putting that stigma behind it that it makes you lose value? Or a hoe? Or easy? Or a player?

Do any of my readers have a current, healthy relationship that stemmed from sex on the first night?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I must say that after the first date me n my boyfriend now of a year and a half who also live together had the "sex on the first date" but must agree the attraction we had to eachother was so strong neither of us could hold back. I do think it's a generational stigma though because neither of felt wrong for it maybe just because it worked for us..

Xay B. said...

A guy knows whether or not he will talk to a girl longer than the sex the minute he meets them.

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