Let's Talk About Sex...FINALLY!!!

11/20/2008 12:38:00 PM Posted In , , Edit This 8 Comments »

I'm gonna make this pretty short and sweet...

i'm NEVER one to just go around tooting my own horn...

(well maybe just one toot here and there)...

but i am a female who enjoys and is very passionate about sex...

being things way brings up alot of questions about sex that i would like answered...

it's just that no one ever really keeps it real about sex anymore :-\


so i'm hoping i can ask these questions on here...

and someone can clarify a few things for me...

because i do NOT believe in this thing called "bad sex"...

so i'm just trying to figure some things out real quick..............


I've had so many female friends dissatisfied with their mate and come back with SO many stories about what went wrong. Same thing with my male friends. Then, on the flip side, i've heard both sexes come back with stories about how spectacular the sex was and...what went right. lol


I've heard guys say they hated the sex because all the girl did was lay there. And I've heard females say the same. I myself find it hard to have sex of any sort if there is no kissing involved. Makes me feel very seperated from the actual act, like there's no passion involved. And one thing i refuse to be lacking during sex................is passion. Makes it all so drab and boring.


If i reeeeeallly got into what i liked about sex...it would look something like this. I like a man who likes being in a poition of power in the bedroom. He knows exactly how to initiate things with me and exactly how to end things. Someone who has that power but also enjoys when i take over and do what i do. A man who pulls hair, bites, grabs, throws...all that. A man that knows his way around a females body WITHOUT directions and doesnt expect anything he doesnt give in the bedroom. Smoking also greeeatly inhances any sexual experience i have because my body is in a sensitive state after i smoke. drinking is ok, but sex while being toooo drunk gets sloppy and too much to deal with. I like unspoken communication. To be able to look at my partner and know what to do without a word being uttered. I like when a guy can be rough but not be trying to destroy my insides at the same time. Someone who could look at me and make me feel wanted...and at the same time look at me and know that they are wanted just as much.

I'm pretty much saying that i like passion in the bedroom. That is what turns me on and what keeps me coming back (if i come back). I know it's not the same for everyone though so i want to hear other opinions.


What makes someone your "best "partner? Is it some type of connection you have to have for sex to be good? And if your sex is just good and you know what you're doing...then how can sex be bad with....anyone?


What turns guys on during sex? What specific things do men like done to them? Or what things do men like about sex period? Is there a certain way that you want your partner to be sexually? What type of sexual personality do you have? Does it matter of the sex is good or not? Are females vaginas really that different? What makes one better than another?


What turns females on during sex? What things have to happen in the bedroom (or bathroom, livingroom, club, whatever...) for sex to be good for you? What things do you specifically like about sex? What makes it "good" or "bad" or "memorable" even? What should a woman/man NOT do in the bedroom? What makes you "go back for more"??
Well, so much for short and sweet

8 comments:

Vegas International said...

You are asking waay to any questions to get then all answered!

You should break it down to like 2 questions, that way people can stay focused!

But here is what i have to say about your initial statement / question....
You said: "because i do NOT believe in this thing called "bad sex"..."
then go on to say:
"I myself find it hard to have sex of any sort if there is no kissing involved. Makes me feel very seperated from the actual act, like there's no passion involved."

That is kinda contradictory, and actually answeres your question ... bad sex is whatever you dont like about your partner and the sex. You didnt have passion you wanted, so the sex was bad.

Some people dont feel they got pleasured from sex either because the dick was too big or too small or maybe they didnt get any tongue on lip action (and im not talking the lips under your nose), some women dont like hard sex, some women dont like soft affectionate sex. Guys might not like a girl to be rish and just flap around on her back, maybe the pussy wasnt wet like he likes, maybe it was too tight or too lose. maybe she was emotionless in bed, no nonverbal comunication at all ... BAD sex is simply gettin from your partner what you dont like.

Ill answer other questions later, gotta run!

Good Life said...

I can’t believe no one commented yet. This is like my favorite subject. Hey Tanya I may have to blog on this one as well…lol. But passion is a definite. I want to be able to zone out, like literally be somewhere else mentally. I love when there are no restrictions and she matches my drive. I’m a lil different, so most of the time I’m not even concerned with how I feel (cuming), as long as she's into it…..the more she's pleased, the more I’m turned on. Now if she’s wack, then I don’t even want to continue. I don’t care if we are in the act…I'm done. Sex is different for me now…..Im done having plain burgers. If you aint cumming with the deluxe, I'm dining else-where or not even dining at all. Yea I'm getting to that point…….

Anonymous said...

i need good head and i like when girls tell me what to do thats what makes it good for me

Anonymous said...

Depending on the connection....sex can be very dangerous. I had this 1 girl I couldnt wait to have around me. Her body fit mine so perfectly. Her scent, her shape, the size of her compared to the size of me, the stairs we gave each other, everything was PERFECT. We matched down to a "T". She love the fact I was willing to do whatever it took to satisfy her...i would go hours without getting my climax just to get SEVERAL of hers. We knew what each other wanted done without saying a word. Our body languages read each others blindly but accurately. Way she looked at me drove me insane pretty much and when it was time for her to get on TOP omg it was heaven. That was just the connect me and her had and I swear on everything I love she was the ONLY person I had that connection with. The best part about it all is when we was HIGH the sex just became more intense. The passion we shared when we was at normal standards but when we was high we are like savages. Fighting for the dominance in the bedroom. Last time I had sex with her we was in the shower like a couple of days ago and I swear that was the best. I held her up in the air and felt like we was 1 soul connected. I can go on about this but just the point of the fact is the connection is what makes the sex so powerful. Anyone can just have sex but it takes the right 2 people to make beautiful music together.

Gotta run....

Eb the Celeb said...

I think its the intimacy of it... that first moment with they break the seal before they even may that initial pump... whew... gets me going...

I just cant wait until I'm 30... my aunts keeping telling me that you dont know what sex is until you hit 30... that you have the best sex of your life in your 30's... so come one 30!

*God's Gift* said...

Taurean, i feel what you're saying...i cant say i agree though. If you are able to zone out and not even be worried about your own pleasure (cumming), then im not sure a female should be able to be wack to you. you may not have the same connection with everyone but as far as being wack...idk. I myself said i was passionate about sex and dont believe in "bad sex" because i feel like when im in the bedroom...nothing should be going wrong anyway. so, no offense to you, if you really zoned out...there would be no such think as a "plain burger" or a "deluxe" because well, you should have been coming with the deluxe yourself so thats there no room to even digest a plain burger. so the partners you've had must have been some type of deluxe if you continued fucking them...maybe the sex became the way it did because they felt that your "deluxe" lost some toppings and became "plain"...but hey...you never know

*God's Gift* said...

Eb the Celeb...

i feel you! im waiting to hit that age tooooo!! good times lmao

Patron Pay said...

im mad i was about to comment on this and i did already lol

gotta run....lol

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