...trucee...

everyone gives advice right? but does anyone take it anymore? and if you do take advice, is it ever from the right people??

i'm a avid believer in not taking advice from someone who has never been in the situation that i need it for, and doesn't know anyone who has. there are going to be plenty of people that offer their advice and feel it is best...but is it really?

i have a friend that had quite a few relationship issues and part of them stemmed from taking advice from allll the wrong people. if you are someone interested in a relatonship and want to be committed and faithful, would you take advice from a friend that's trying to have sex with anything moving?? i know i wouldn't because how the hell can they help me with my problems? they can't even relate.

when i need advice, i go to the people that i know have been through what i am going through and made it out alive. i don't ask anyone still in the situation because they need the same advice that i need.

another thing people do that they shouldn't is take relationship advice from previous mates that can't let go or people that have expressed interest in them. do you REALLY think that they're going to tell you the right thing to do? or just what you want to hear?

my best advice to people is to take into consideration the advice from people that have always been honest with you no matter how much it hurt. those are the ones that are going to give you the real, honest answers or opinions that you need.


WHO DO MY READERS THINK GIVES THE BEST ADVICE IN THEIR LIVES? WHO SHOULD YOU, AND SHOULDN'T YOU, TAKE ADVICE FROM??

I get the whole 'ride or die' concept...but what's the limit of what you are willing to put up with in a relationship?

I sat around with some friends and had a relationship convo so that i could figure out some new blog topics.  during that convo it came up that sometimes people feel like their children are a reason to be with someone that they may not necessarily be the person they love, or want to spend their time with.

I happen to be a woman that doesn't have kids yet, so i tried to find a way to view the topic from a different light...from the outside looking in.  i've always heard opinions on both sides of the argument so i can't say that i am biased. it doesn't effect me either way.

i feel that if a couple decides together that they want yo have a child, that some type of love is present between them and they should probably try to work through most issues.  if you are a couple that did not plan on having a child though, and it just was not part of your plan at all, i completely disagree with that child keeping you together.  there are several children that have been raised and grown into wonderful people whose parents werent together. the excuse of staying for the child's sake is no longer valid...so why do people feel the need to stay somewhere unhappy just for a child?

i don't agree with that. my parents are not together and havent been since before i can remember and i am just fine.  i honestly feel like people that use children as a martyring system for their relationship really just haven't found another way to admit their mistakes and use the child to hold on to any ounce of "love" that is left.

i am very curious to hear the thoughts of my blog supporters, and even first time visitors.
do you think having a child together is a reason to stay in a relationship, even if you aren't as happy as you could be outside of it?

i want opinions from everyone, even if you don't have children. curious to know what everyone thinks about this...

If you could change something about your mate, what would it be?  Do you think they would change anything about you??

The idea for this blog was bought up a very long time ago.  Just had no idea how to approach this one.  It makes me laugh thinking about it but it is actually a very valid question.  When is it okay to shit in front of your girl/guy, or while they are home?

I'm going to be honest, after two and a half years with someone, i was just able to do that while he's in the next room.  (Yes, females shit too.)  I was all nervous about doing it.  i made him get me the spray and stand away from the door.  It just made me feel so unladylike.  He was very cool about it, but if i wasn't concerned about not holding it in for health reasons, it would not have gone down.

I also thought about it like this though...you eventually want to live with who you are with (if it is serious).  It is inevitable that we will be in the house together at a time where i need to drop some kids off at the pool, so at some point i'd have to get used to taking that step.  One of my exes even sat in the bathroom while i took a shit.  Extremely awkward, but i guess that is some form of love shown.

LADIES: When do you think it is okay to shit around your man?

FELLAS: Do you care if your girl takes a shit in front of you?